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PostSubject: Re: Goin back to ya roots?   Mon Jan 09, 2017 1:30 pm

Dementia is a dreadful condition.  

My Mum had it at the end of her life.  She eventually didn't know me each time when I arrived at the nursing home where she ended her days.  Neutral
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PostSubject: Re: Goin back to ya roots?   Mon Jan 09, 2017 2:40 pm

My blind veteran friend who recently died, nursed his wife at home as she slid into dementia for about 5 years before it was diagnosed as Alzheimer's. He was 90 and blind and just could not cope and she had to go into care. He spent £102,000 of his savings on care home fees - after all his wife's savings had been exhausted. She died in 2012 - and with the help of some solicitors I am still fighting to try and get most of that refunded to his estate 4 years later.

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PostSubject: Re: Goin back to ya roots?   Mon Jan 09, 2017 3:01 pm

good on ya A
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PostSubject: Re: Goin back to ya roots?   Mon Jan 09, 2017 3:16 pm

It's truly a hard slog - the public services have a mighty skills in procrastination and red herrings.

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PostSubject: Re: Goin back to ya roots?   Wed Jan 11, 2017 10:25 pm

funny they call it the "public service" they should take a leaf out of Obamas last speech!
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PostSubject: Re: Goin back to ya roots?   Thu Jan 12, 2017 12:56 am

this has been a great thread for opening up about our lives and families or lack of! but what were some of the actions of these families that assisted us to succeed? I remember my Da had a great love of reading and joined me into the local library as soon as I had reached the appropriate age. we had a full range of encyclopedias at home and I can remember sitting on his knee in the small kitchen next to the warm fire grate and listening to him read stories for me. eventually one of my few successes at school was english grammar!

my mother was more business orientated and brought home one of those very old fashioned typewriters for me to mess around with - from there I eventually learned to touch type having bought a portable olivetti and practiced for three months with a coaching manual.

as I have mentioned previously I am disappointed my two grandfathers didn't teach me the skills of their trades.

My parents both made the decision to leave the 'pool and move to a healthier environment in Cheshire were I learned to enjoy cheshire cheese; beer and scrumping! My parents never really coached us vigorously day by day but by example and gently guidance got us there.

so we had moved from lower class poor to middle class poor and then finally just middleclass middleclass although these days I have come across the british term "the rural poverty"


rural poverty

it didn't seem to exist when I lived in a small cheshire village in the late 50's - 60's but heh england has changed so much since I left that's for sure. some of my existing friends back there tell me "davo we had the best years compared to today"
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PostSubject: Re: Goin back to ya roots?   Thu Jan 12, 2017 7:24 am

I don't have any 'roots' as such

I was just 14 when my dad died... I had to leave school and get a job in order to support myself, the house was rented and I was too young to take over the tenancy so I found accommodation with a lovely old couple and got a job in a shop.
My accommodation costs took all my wages and I had to walk two miles to work and back......6 days, 9 'til 6 for £3.50.
After a couple of years or so I got a flat and started night school.
My sister was just married when dad died and was no help to me at all financially or otherwise.
I had two brothers, one lived in London a rich theatrical agent whom I never saw and the other one a drunkard who again I never had any contact with.
Despite it all I survived and eventually got a position with British Aerospace where I ended up a Development Engineer.
Married, one son, divorced and re-married and took redundancy in 1991, my wife took her redundancy in 1992 an neither of us has worked since.
Very generous severance payments and occupational pensions paid early.....we were rich ! and even richer when we reached OAP status.
All in all I have had an interesting life but I have no complaints at all.
We are happy and contented with good and successful families .......
and a lovely new great grandson


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PostSubject: Re: Goin back to ya roots?   Thu Jan 12, 2017 8:07 am

What a lovely looking lad Mal. A real cheeky grin.  smile smile

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PostSubject: Re: Goin back to ya roots?   Thu Jan 12, 2017 8:39 am

mal as he was 70 years ago? hat
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PostSubject: Re: Goin back to ya roots?   Thu Jan 12, 2017 8:41 am

He hasn't changed a bit! yes

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PostSubject: Re: Goin back to ya roots?   Thu Jan 12, 2017 8:48 am

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AlanHo wrote:
Sad but true Davo - I have cousins all over the UK - including some less than 5 miles away. But we only ever exchange pleasantries at family funerals which are becoming all too frequent now I'm almost 80.

Unfortunately we have to attend the funeral of my brother in law tomorrow.  He was a great person until struck down with dementia.


No one enjoys a funeral, but this one was different.  There was no religious mumbo jumbo, it was all about Harry. The man who conducted the ceremony had obviously spent quite a while with his daughter getting to know all about Harry.  He talked about his life and achievement's, especially his sporting ones.  He covered his other achievements, ambitions, love of his family and friends.  The coffin came in to Gen Millers recording of Moonlight serenade, and two more of his favourite tunes were played. It was a sad occasion, but very uplifting and once it was all over we felt satisfied that Harry would have been well pleased with the occasion.  I strongly recommend a Humanist funeral in preference to a religious one. I have told my kids about a memory stick on my computer desk with my wishes for a similar ceremony. The same for 'ER indoors. I am sure that we all felt a lot better after this funeral, than a religious one with all the usual platitudes.  Obviously others will have different views to mine, and I fully respect that, but I know which I prefer.

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PostSubject: Re: Goin back to ya roots?   Thu Jan 12, 2017 10:09 am

sounds good to me andsome
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PostSubject: Re: Goin back to ya roots?   Thu Jan 12, 2017 6:53 pm

I've done just as you have Andsome. It's all on a memory stick . Photos from childhood to recent as well.
All to the accompaniment of "Into the West" by Annie Lennox.

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